Pilates Journal

The greatest gift I gave myself in 2022 was freedom from "the hustle" without labeling myself as “lazy”. The incessant need to churn out ideas and “pivot” my business while surrendering to a 2-year Covid lockdown and isolation left me feeling depleted. So in 2022, as the world opened up with possibility, I wasn’t in ...

In "NO"vember I'm saying "yes" to the kind of clarity that'll inspire some new life decisions and motivate me to take action vs continuing to coast on auto-pilot like I have for most of 2022. It’s time to figure out which way I’d like to grow so I don’t remain stuck in status quo. The ...

In "NO"vember I'm saying "no" to feeling sorry for myself this holiday season. The last eight weeks of the year often feel like a balled up fist of loss and loneliness and a sucker punch to the chest. I have so many empty holiday memories because of growing up in a cult that celebrated nothing. ...

In my career I'm saying "no" to working six days/week ever again. Or schlepping around the city between private homes, Pilates studios and Massage therapy offices to be as accommodating as possible to as many people as possible. Nope. Been there, done that. That's a business model based in fear that left me so depleted ...

In my relationships I'm saying "no" to red flags. But, like, really this time! Yes, I'll continue to listen with an open mind and trust with an open heart. But from now on, I'll for damn sure observe someone's actions for their truth and trust my intuition. Someone's "potential" ain't enough for me anymore. I'm ...

When I say “yes” but wanna say “no” I feel an instant pang of regret. I’ve failed myself by ignoring my needs and my intuition. It’s that all too familiar pattern from my childhood that I swore I’d never repeat. It stems from being raised in an environment where love felt conditional, which created this ...

When someone tells me "no", my first reaction is to get all up in my feelings. Yep, I feel butt-hurt and wonder "How could they possibly say "no" to ME!?" Feeding the disappointment is the psychological dance in my head that looks like a technicolor play-by-play of our most recent interactions to understand what I ...

I wouldn't say it's easy to say "no" but it's definitely getting easier. After decades of people-pleasing I’m finally less concerned about disappointing others than I am about disappointing myself. The heavy feelings of resentment and regret are no longer worth saying "yes" to things that aren’t in alignment with my spirit.  But I was ...