An intangible gift that I like giving is…

An intangible gift that I like giving is best expressed by Maya Angelou, “people… will never forget the way you made them feel”. That resonates so deeply because, even through time and forgiveness, I still feel the sting of other people’s words or the weight of their behaviors and betrayals. And it’s taken so much effort to rebuild my self-esteem, dare to be vulnerable and to trust my intuition again. So it’s important to me that I’m really conscious about how I move through relationships and shared spaces. And that the people within my orbit feel seen, heard, valued and supported.

Something I know for sure is that you never know what someone else is going through. So why would I want to add to anyone else’s pain, sadness, anxiety, fear or insecurities? I can do better than that! People deserve better than that! I dread the thought of being “that person” who sucks the energy of the room. I’ve even noticed that when I do feel my judgmental, snarky, impatient, or “need to be right”-side surface, that my guilt and anxiety levels spike simultaneously. Ugh, it’s like my nervous system is trying to keep me in check! But if those sides of my personality feel toxic to me, why would I want to inflict them on anyone else? That’s when I know my introverted ass needs a time-out to reflect on what’s truly going on inside. 

That treasured and necessary alone-time helps me keep projections of my own personal pain and stanky-ass attitudes away from other people. It just feels better to lead with kindness and compassion. And because that’s my intention, I tend to attract people with similar spirits into my personal and professional life. We generally leave one another feeling better than when we arrived because kindness and compassion are the gifts that keeps on giving. 

7 Days of Soaked in Thought

S.I.T is an invitation to SIT with yourself – for a few minutes per day – to think your thoughts, feel your feels & express your emotions with a JOURNALING RITUAL. These 7 days are dedicated to end of the year reflection and how you’d like to step into the New Year. I’ll be posting daily journaling prompts as a source of inspiration for becoming #soakedinthought

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